Submit Your Question Here! New Love Advice Q&A – Let Me Help You With Your Love Life
Love is something so many of us struggle with. Even for someone smart, successful, highly educated, or who otherwise has a handle on life… Love can be really tricky.
Because most often we’re not dealing with logic, rationale and control… We’re in the murky waters of emotion, habits, perceptions – not only with ourselves but with another person.
It’s something most of us could use help with – at some point, in some way it’s just not enough to grit our teeth and hope for the best… Or to ask friends or family for their input… Or even bring it up with a partner (they may not be comfortable with openly discussing the issue!)
So it is my aim that this site will become a positive “library” of actionable advice for love and relationships – free to use and full of helpful resources.
Being Blind To Our Own Solutions
I know that often, the biggest thing that keeps us stuck in life and in love is that it can be really hard to see ourselves and our situation clearly.
It can be nigh impossible to see solutions from the inside looking out! To know what the deeper factors are and to have clarity… Because we’re “in the middle of it”!
As an intuitive coach and author in the field of love and relationships, I have had the privilege of learning about the psychological, emotional and energetic factors that play into love for years. The kinds of things that can push a relationship downhill, vs what indicates a long fruitful connection.
I’ve coached thousands to reach into a higher state of love for themselves and in their relationships – including finding their ideal partner.
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Would You Like My Personal Assistance On Your Journey?
So I’ve been guided to start a new series here on the site to assist you in a very hands-on personal way. If you want what’s akin to a “one-on-one coaching session” with me (I don’t do these anymore because the demand got so high!) – I’m offering it to you through this blog at no charge.
Send in your question to cassady (a) cassadycayne.com or write in the comment field below!
Every month I will select one person’s question or issue to address in full!
This way, not only do you benefit but over time we’ll build up an archive of useful insights and advice for others going through the same kind of issue or dealing with a similar question or situation.
What’s Your Question?
So, what question has been gnawing at you lately? What do you seem to not find a good solution or answer to? What one embarrassing or difficult thing do you need my advice on? (You can use a pseudonym when you ask!)
Go ahead and send your question to cassady (a) cassadycayne.com or write it in the comment field below!
As always, I’m sending you love and light for your continued journey! <3
I’m in a relationship where my partner has had a LOT of previous flings and connections. It makes me scared about committing to him because im paranoid he’ll cheat or find someone else. how can i deal with this? am i being crazy? or does it make sense, do people never really change and im just another in a row of partners and he’ll move on soon? we have been together nearly a year and he SAYS he loves me and only wants me. Thanks in advance cassidy
I am in a relationship where everything is just so formal. We try to talk casually but it leads to a stale ending; we try to be intimate but my body subconsciously refuses to engage in subtle romance. It is totally on my end and I see all my limiting programming as it has been happening. Our relationship basically has been playing out like a business transaction than a romantic relationship. I have been taking steps to push past my silly limitation but I only know some parts of what to ‘fix’.
Is there any other way of becoming more casual in a relationship where we both just click? It only happens in relationships.
Much appreciated for your help.
How do I know if I’ve met “the one”
How do I get clarification…will I be just settling if I commit or if I don’t commit will I be losing out.
How do I know if he’s “the one” will I be settling if I commit or miss out if I don’t
Hi, I had the same issue and I just wanted to resolve it by myself and I received an insight – that this man was having so many connections with other women because subconsciously he desperately wanted to find the only one, women of his dreams and it was his main driving force. And he was jumping from one to another because none of them was the one he was searching for. And he needed the change very fast to meet the only one. And maybe he finally found her and it is YOU? Does it resonate with you? This was strongly resonating with me, but I’d love to hear from Cassady. Also, I need to clear any resistance to this statement as there are some aspects that don’t want to accept this as truth. I feel like this was the answear from the light/from my guides as I have a very deep connection with them constantly. I hope we all will be able to resolve this issue collectively as this is one of the biggest wounds for women. And I SO THANK YOU for this question! Love and light! <3
Hi, I’ve been reading your blog/using the meditations for over a year now and have found it all to be very compassionate; I would attribute it as a large aid in my journey to true self love, so thank you for making these resources widely available. Much gratitude.
My main conundrum in my love life (for nearly my whole life) has been the inability to allow a meeting with my twin, or maybe we’ve met but I don’t see the situation clearly, but it seems like the intensity of my desire for a loving, supportive, passionate, committed relationship seems to run men off even when I’m trying to take it easy; or other times where it seems like something really special sparks between myself and another, but don’t have synched up timelines (we live in different places of the world, or the current employment/educational pursuits don’t allow for a lot of flexibility). I’ve been on and off extremely frustrated with this, having a deep knowing of my worthiness and amazing soul-light, and an attractive personality/physicality to boot, and feeling like I repel the men I develop feelings for after the first few dates/meetings/etc. How can I support my continual healing and growth in a way that will help smooth the road to allowing the great and magical love I want into my life? Perhaps still hanging on to some fantasies maybe, but also believing that life is a magical adventure so why would romance be any different?
Thank you so much for offering this platform! Sending love.
Thank you for asking. I was wondering if I should include my TF with me in all my meditations. I have been. But was wondering if I needed too or if it would still benefit him the same just by myself. Especially for the Love blueprint. I’ve actually seen him jumping up and down with excitement so happy after a few of the clearings. Especially when it comes to karma. We are not together. We live in different states. I messed up royally but I think it was intentional on my part. He has not awakened yet. Thank you so much. So glad they hired you.
Thanks. I already asked you a question. Just wanted you to know I got the answer. Was doing the module 3 – 3rd time and my TF wants to be there. I thought it would be easier with just myself but no it isn’t, and I wouldn’t want it like that. Thank you maybe I can ask you something later because there are sure some things I would love to know but deep down, most of them maybe i know already. You are a great teacher and I’ve learned so much and came so far. It’s been 2 years come August that I found your guidance, very very soon after awakening or same time idk I’m eternally grateful for everything. It’s truly wonderful.
I want to be spoiled,taken care of and be provided for and my partner is not doing that..We don’t have date nights and on my birthday she didn’t even spend the day with me or join me for dinner or bother to even get me a gift..I feel like our relationship is stagnant and i don’t know what to do? It is frustrating
Hi there, definitely stay in awareness that this last year has been challenging for everyone and so relationships haven’t been as “normal”. Spirit says deep down you feel what the best choice is for you. If they are unaware of how you feel, give your partner a chance to respond… Ultimately you deserve amazing happiness and someone who cherishes you completely. So if you’re unhappy, definitely listen to that.
I would look at, who in your life may have treated you this way before? What inside of you may not be expecting love to be a celebration, to be easy? And heal those inner beliefs that will tend to manifest as “reality” unless you deal with them. You can use the free heart activation to go through this work in a smooth way – it’s likely your partner will respond differently to you after doing this work, as shifting your energy will change the dynamic between you as well.
You really can experience amazing thrilling happy romance and love – but the first step is to look inside and see, is there anything in your system that may be blocking it? xx
Sending you love and light <3 x Cassady
I’m glad he showed it to you! I would usually ask their soul, do they want this work – or intend that they receive the shifts they’re willing to receive, and they can deflect anything they don’t. A twin flame counterpart will 99.9999999999% of the time want all the help they can get! <3
Glad he reached out to show you personally! I'm so thrilled my work has been helpful for you as well. Spirit is cheering you on, letting you know that the program will shift things, and be patient with yourself. Within the next 1-3 months you'll see the major shifts. I'm actually being shown, your twin reaching out to you.
Sending you love and light x <3
Definitely look into your relationship with the masculine archetype – who was the first male person who may have been this way with you? That’s the root, the key to this. Really, you are amazing and loveable and perfect! But somewhere along the line you were shown or taught that love was dangerous or you weren’t loveable for who you really were… Seems like also you’re in self protection because you feel that love may be taken away from you so you don’t fully open up or fear to do so.
This inner stuff is reflecting into your physical life as a variety of issues, so I would recommend diving in and doing that inner work to shift into inner harmony and wholeness. So your outer experiences become more harmonious and in flow. There’s a part of you locked back in time in hurt over feeling unloved, and it doesn’t make sense (i.e. it wasn’t “fair” or “right”). So go in and heal that, and you’ll be surprised at how much your current life shifts!
You can begin with the Free Heart Activation here on the site, where I get you started on this xx
Sending you love and light <3 x
I would definitely check in with your body consciousness and ask it what’s up. Spirit is showing, this partner reminds you of someone else you had problems with or found untrustworthy – your body consciousness is the one who has an issue, it seems. Go within and meditate on this, ask your body what the issue is.
There’s a whole module in the love blueprint on our different levels of consciousness, because often issues in romance are due to the different parts of us not being in alignment. Ie, heart wants one type of partner but body deems it dangerous, or we have chemistry with someone who isn’t a mental fit, and so on.
Finding out the source of disharmony and bringing all of you into alignment will help you figure out 1) what the issue is, 2) get clarity on whether this person is a “real fit” and how to move forward in opening up. You can get started with the Free Heart Activation, but I’d definitely recommend going deep into this if your body is being so “vocal”.
Sending you love and light for your journey <3 xx
Definitely work to map out whether it’s fear/worry and negative belief systems at work, or whether your intuition is trying to tell you something. I find it very helpful to write out all the worries, then ask yourself, who or where did you get that belief from?
Often, it’s the “voice” of society or parents/peers causing uncertainty. Your soul and your system always know if it’s the right fit.
You’ll find the Free Heart Activation session on the site helpful, because we clear out fear/worry and activate your heart, so you’ll be more easily able to FEEL whether this is “the one”! xx
Hope this helps <3 x Cassady
I desire to reunite with the love of my life. I believe I’m in the process of union. It’s just been very different for me, as I am use to attacking things or fixing myself and my relationship by focusing on the past. And keeping my guard up to not allow any more bad things to happen. I’m aware of this distorted perception and behavior, which is why I decided to do silent meditation to quiet the noise and negativity in my mind. It seems to be working, I seem to quiet my mind. I just get scared when things go so well. How do I end that cycle and reunite? He’s told me that he loves me but isn’t in love with me. I know in my heart that that isn’t true. He’s also in another relationship with someone else. This is the person he’s cheated on me with. I know it’s a karmic relationship. My question is, is he in love me? Does he know that I’m the one?
I admire your thoughts & reading through your articles. Would love some advice from someone with such a great perspective.
I have met my TF 2 years ago. We have had an incredible bond in a time we have both been surrounded by the biggest life challenges & turmoil. Lots of Pain from the past. We both helped each other through a lot of it. Though now it’s finally come at the cost of our relationship all together. Standard ghosting kind of interaction now. Which is so disappointing as we are both heading into some resolve from the past as well.
I don’t really have an exact question but rather would love your thoughts from the twin flame perspective.
She has totally closed the door on us from what she’s said. I of course want to listen and want us both to choose each other not just one of us wish for things to evolve and continue.
I do miss our connection very much too though.
Thank you so much
I can’t seem to be happy like real happy just like I used to feel when we were together my twin flame and I
What am I supposed to do on my journey to get closer to the one I love… he knows it and I know it.. he is my twin and we have merged I feel it al the time but I just want to physically be in his arms and I his… when does that part come? When do we get to do that? This life is unbearable with out him.. like I can do it in my own but I don’t want to anymore! I just want him to come sweep me away to our new life.. soon! Please help me understand????✨?
Thank you for your response! I appreciate the encouragement of the healing to be done <3