7 Things To Give Up For A Happier Love Life
What if the Most Powerful Thing Was to Let Go?
Our Instincts Usually Tell us to Seek More and More Insights, Answers and Explanations to Make Everything OK… But it can lead us into complication, confusion and entrenched issues. So today I’m taking you a different route to a happier and smoother journey…
Sometimes shifting our perspective can release and open up to new shifts. Moving around any resistance we’ve built in.
Giving Up These 7 Things Can Dramatically Improve Your Love Life
#1) THE NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
– Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right?
Everyone’s journey unfolds at their own pace. If your partner or desired lover isn’t getting your perspective, don’t be mad at them – help them understand. Explain things calmly and be open to different perspectives.
We live in a society that teaches us that the world is divided into clear “right” and “wrong” but the truth is everyone sees the world through their unique lens based on their experiences and background. In relationships, fighting to be “right” will only create more and more conflict.
I grew up with parents who focused on this and they were constantly arguing, still I hear them debating silly things like who was to blame for buying the wrong kind of potatoes at the grocery store. Conflict is a foundational pattern that affects our relationships so much.
For a happy love connection, be willing to allow for different perspectives. It’s OK to disagree sometimes. And when we allow others space for their opinions, they tend to be a lot more open to adjusting and finding the best SHARED ways of doing things. Be a team, not opponents.
Complaints and blame only serve to reinforce more negativity.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Dr Wayne Dyer
#2) THE PAST
The Now Moment is the only truth – past and future are constructs, they only truly exist in the mind.
Many people unwittingly keep negative love and relationship cycles around by thinking about the past, holding onto old grudges, old hurt and staying in outdated modes of thinking. Letting go of the past allows you to step into new joy.
Holding onto the past lowers your vibration and holds you back from the happy harmonious love and romance you desire. Forgiveness and moving away from focusing on the past can powerfully change things for the better.
I know that it’s not always easy, but have a look at this article on forgiveness for some helpful perspectives on how to let go of old hurt in a way that serves you. Remember that you don’t have to let hurt happen again, but release yourself from the past events and feelings so you don’t unwittingly keep that negative energy around.
Clearing cords and attachments can free up your journey so much and makes it easier to step into forgiveness.
In the Free Heart Activation session I take you through we go through clearing negative attachments and healing old wounds in order to remove any negative pull on your energies and emotions.
#3) OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS/DEFINITIONS
You are here to live your unique journey, not to repeat other people’s experiences
We are all here uniquely make a new story, to evolve the human experience and conception of love. Other people’s previous experiences and opinions mostly get in the way of this – releasing beliefs around love and relationships can create huge shifts for the better.
Through family/friends, popular culture and hearsay most of us have been told things like: “Men are only after one thing”, “Marriages don’t last”, “Men always cheat”, “Women only love you for your money” and so on and so forth. Our culture is full of limiting and hurtful belief structures around love.
We are all here with a unique soul signature, where our heart’s “wiring” to a particular form of love makes us an ideal fit with another person whose signature resonates with ours – a “soul mate”. Inside, you have a perfect “recipe” for your “perfect” unique journey and relationship. Go within and tune into your soul’s knowing.
I take you through activating your heart and connecting you energetically with your ideal partner in the Free Heart Activation Session here – whether or not you’ve already met them!
Energy management tools are an amazing way to eradicate limiting belief structures, align you with your higher faculties and open up to your soul’s insights.
This is why all my work focuses on Energy – energy tools and management can be adapted to any situation, so you have methods to make your unique situation work for you no matter what. Have a look at my flagship coaching and energy healing program here, where I take you through it all.
#4) HUMANITY’S STORIES
– Don’t believe everything you think/read/see/hear
Human beings have an innate need to find elaborate reasons and intricate explanations for how things are. Ever since the stone age people have been painting, telling stories and explaining with mythology why things are the way they are – from African stories of roaring lions in the sky creating thunder to the vikings with Thor’s hammer…
We seek explanations everywhere, but often all we come up with is an elaborate story that just makes things even more complicated. Look at any ancient myth and it provides a very good “reason” why things are the way they are – without it being accurate or helpful.
Our journey through life and with love is much, much simpler than we tend to make out. It’s all about energy.
What determines whether your love life is harmonious or chaotic and fraught with problems, is your energy vibration and your core beliefs. The actual hows and whats of your journey actually make very little difference.
Unfortunately, if you’re heavy with congestion, limiting belief structures and negative karma, this will keep you out of alignment with the love and happiness you desire. (Read more about this here)
This is why you can have read all the self help books info in the world, use crystals, do yoga, follow a healthy diet, pray every night still be stuck in problems!
In order to experience harmony, your energy must be aligned with it. This means clearing out all the stuff that’s been keeping you weighed down in a low vibration. Energy attracts its like. Like with a radio, it’s like being tuned into Metal FM and expecting classical music. It won’t happen, unfortunately.
You have to change the channel. In energy terms – you have to raise your vibration and clear out the old baggage that has been weighing it down.
Ultimately it doesn’t matter what’s come before or what we call it – when your energy shifts, your love connection and your life situation begin to shift positively as well! (Have a look here for some other people’s experiences)
#5) LIMITING BELIEFS (about love/life/yourself)
Again, most of us grow up with the habit of looking outside of ourselves for advice and guidance and reinforcement. We’re taught to look to teachers, parents, gurus, religious leaders, even god or the universe to help us, to fix things, to show us the way…
In the new energy shift on planet earth things are changing – we and the Earth are in Ascension. We are evolving emotionally, spiritually, energetically. Our souls are pushing us away from the old. We are being asked to move away from seeking outside of ourselves, and instead embrace our inner power.
“Stop acting so small, you are the universe in ecstatic motion” – Rumi
We are infinite beings living an earth experience. The old pattern was to look outside for answers, perpetuating the cycle of seeking and searching and needing to be saved, for divine intervention to make things right.
The new pattern is self empowerment, embracing our own divinity – to not look to outsiders to connect us to a higher power but to know that we are always connected to that infinite consciousness from the “inside out”. To know that we are the ones creating our experience, and then to adjust accordingly. To know that we are our own “saviors”.
When we begin to shift our approach, our reality shifts along with it. Warning: This may cause “miracles.”
– Stepping out of the deadlock of judgment means being free to flow with love
Most human beings have an energy program running which is to hold onto facts, labels and judgments – things we “know” are right versus what’s wrong. Rigid definitions.
But unfortunately, labels and preconceptions become unconscious recipes for manifestation. For example, when we know that conflict between men and women is very common, or we have accepted the idea that men often cheat, our unconscious faculties take this in and make it a part of our reality.
The unconscious mind doesn’t “understand” the difference between true and false or damaging and helpful – it just absorbs what we are exposed to.
Energy and love are by nature free flowing. So holding onto judgments and definitions blocks us from being open to flow with love, new insights and new developments.
Clearing the energy behind our limiting beliefs can powerfully transform our journey for the better.
Most of the damaging beliefs that trip us up are deeply unconscious – but we can trace them through reading our current experiences. As an example: Believing that Life is Hard translates to constant struggle, and feeling like nothing ever changes for the better in life. ..
Try to find new ways of talking and thinking about your life. Focus on the positives. It will help you to avoid blocking your energy and to not tap into other people and society’s limitations.
Words are incredibly powerful – not only do we create and manifest with our voice (“in the beginning was the word”) but when we use certain words, we tune into the energy others have put into it as well.
Redefining your journey with new words helps free you from experiencing negativity. And it above all opens you to fully experiencing your joys and your journey – not observing through a filter of others’ judgment and collective stories.
#7) THE ILLUSION OF SEPARATION
Look deeper: the surface is a masquerade
One of humanity’s greatest sources of suffering is separation. To always be apart from others, from the universe. As some people love to say: “We’re born alone and we die alone.”
Energetically this is completely untrue! Energy has no limits, when we love someone we are connecting no matter how far away they are geographically. On the energy planes, we are all made of the same substance. The perceived separation of the physical body is only a tiny part of reality.
When we shift our perspective to focus on the inner truth that when we love someone we are always connected, we know that there is no danger after all. We will never be abandoned, we will never be rejected, we will never be broken apart. We are energy. We are all consciousness, living in human bodies. And consciousness knows no bounds.
Humanity’s focus on the limited body causes so many fears. Really, all of life, all of earth is energy.
Like physicists have known for decades – energy shifts but it never dies.
“We are here to awaken from the illusion of our separateness.” —Thich Nhat Hanh
I hope you found this article insightful and inspiring – when we shift our perspectives, it affects our whole being and opens to a higher state of existence.
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